Assalamualaikum. Hey there~ Just finishing up my study for the day, and now feel like i want to write something in my blog.
"The believers are nothing else than brothers, so make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allah, than you may receive mercy " ( al-Quran, 49:10 )
Have you ever met someone for the first time and when you get to know her, your mind just popped that maybe she is your actual-sworn-eternal friend. The friend you have been waiting for. You guys talk and then it seems to you that you guys like the same thing and have the same hobby and so on and so forth. So, you guys are just meant to be together.
Well, actually that would be so strange and grotesque(bizarre) because people are just simply different. Maybe she likes to cook and you too like to cook but in some other way maybe she has other habits that is so not you like sports car or whatever. This differences actually that bond people together because if you and your friend like to do same stuff over and over again,it just gets dull and boring. Well maybe first time doing same things together is going to be exciting but sooner or later, you will experience this. Don't need me then to tell i told you so right eh?
Instead, why don't we introduce new things, the things we love and fine fascinating to do, so that maybe our friends will find them interesting too. It will be too tiring to find similarities between people because people are just meant to be different from one another. That's just facts talking.
Okay, sometimes you might have troubles and arguments with your BFF and you just cannot cope with her attitude. Well, perhaps you have that kind of attitude too that make your friends feel you are bothersome. Think positive and try to solve the problem maturely. Don't run away from it and think that you are the right one and she's the one who needs to apologize.
Self attitude adjustment is important in oneself just to know how to act the right way at the right time. Just think. If actually the fault is yours and you don't want to say you are sorry then what's going to happen to your friendship? End it? Make new friends? Maybe your friends are scared to say things that might hurt your feelings. That's why they prefer to stay quiet and let you yourself do the thinking.
If you quarrel with your friend over an advice she has given you, it is just plain wrong. It just proved that you are snobby and you don't want to listen to your friend who cares for you. Our environment shapes us to be who we are. That means our friends do too. If they advice you, it just that they want you to be a better person. Not for themselves, it's for your own good. So, if you fight with your friends, reconcile, forgive and forget ok! Don't hesitate and Don't hold grudges against your friends!
Anyway, making friends is a good way to correlate with our environment. Don't lock yourself in your room and refuse to talk to anyone because i think if you do that you will end up in a psychiatric ward. People who are alone tend to have mental illness because they don't speak up their mind or maybe, they just like to talk to themselves? certainly that just proved they suffer mental problems. Sorry~ Just joking.=)
On the authority of Abu Musa al-Ash'ari (رضي الله عنه ), the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) said:
A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace.
So, last words from me, remember that friends are the ones who are with us during ups and downs. If we choose the right type of friends, insyaAllah we will be guided and have a blessed life not only with the people around us but with Allah SWT too because good friends will insyaAllah make us want to race to do good things in life. Remember that! Hope you have a blissful day.. taa~
p/s : sure this applied to our soon to be partner in life too.. =)